21 Suggestions for Success

1. Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.

2. Work at something you enjoy and that's worthy of your time and talent.

3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.

5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.

6. Be generous.

7. Have a grateful heart.

8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.

9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.

10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.

11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.

12. Commit yourself to quality.

13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect.

14. Be loyal.

15. Be honest.

16. Be a self-starter.

17. Be decisive even if it means you'll sometimes be wrong.

18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.

19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.

20. Take good care of those you love.

21. Don't do anything that wouldn't make your Mom proud."

By H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

- Instructions for Life -

01. Give people more than they expect, and do it cheerfully.
02. Memorize your favorite poem.
03. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have, or sleep all you want.
04. When you say "I love you" - mean it.
05. When you say "I'm sorry" look the person in the eye.
06. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
07. Believe in love at first sight.
08. Never laugh at anyone's dreams.
09. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt, but it's the only way to live life completely.
10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
11. Don't judge people by their relatives.
12. Talk slowly but think quickly.
13. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
15. Call your mom.
16. Say "Bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
17. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
18. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.
19. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
20. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
21. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
22. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any others.
23. Spend some time alone.
24. Open your arms to change but don't let go of your values.
25. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
26. Read more books and watch less TV.
27. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll get to enjoy it a second time.
28. Trust in God but lock your car.
29. Do all you can to create a tranquil, harmonious home.
30. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
31. Read between the lines.
32. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
33. Be gentle with the Earth.
34. Pray. There's immeasurable power in it.
35. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
36. Mind your own business.
37. Don't trust a man/woman who doesn't close his/her eyes when you kiss.
38. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
39. If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth's greatest satisfaction.
40. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.
41. Learn the rules, then break some.
42. Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.
43. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
44. Remember that your character is your destiny.
45. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

by:fukkad.com

buh yawan man ko kabasa megs bah!
bay-i lang megs hay amat amatun ko gid ran...
ka memorize, drawatun ko iba ha?!

thanks for these megs!

I LOVE SLEEPING,
WANNA KNOW WHY?
"WELL ITS BECAUSE SLEEPING IS MY ONLY WAY OF ESCAPING FROM THE PAIN
WHICH I CAN'T BEAR WHEN IM AWAKE!

BE GOOD TO YOURSELF THERAPY

1. Trust yourself. You know what you want and need.

2. Put yourself first. You can't be anything for anybody else unless you take care of yourself.

3. Let your feelings be known. They are important.

4. Express your opinions. It's good to hear yourself talk.

5. Value your thinking. You do it well.

6. Take the time and space you need even if other people are wanting something from you.

7. When you need something, don't talk yourself out of it. Even if you can't have it, it's ok to need.

8. When you're scared, let someone know. Isolating yourself when you're scared makes it worse.

9. When you feel like running away, let yourself feel the scare. Think about what you need to do.

10. When you're angry let yourself feel the anger. Decide what you want to do: just feel it, express it or take some action.

11. When you're sad, think about what would be comforting.

12. When you're hurt, tell the person who hurt you. Keeping it inside makes it grow.

13. When you see someone else's hurt face, breathe. You are not responsible for making other people happy.

14. When you have work to do and you don't want to do it, decide what really needs to be done and what can wait.

15. When you want something from someone else, ask. You'll be ok if they say no. Asking is being true to yourself.

16. When you need help, ask. Trust people to say no if they don't want to give.

17. When people turn you down, it usually has to do with them and not with you. Ask someone else for what you need.

18. When you feel alone, know there are people who want to be with you.

19. When you feel anxious, let yourself know that in your head that you've moved into the future to something scary and your body has gotten up the energy for it. Come back to the present.

20. When you want to say something loving to someone, go ahead. Expressing your feelings is not a commitment.

21. When someone yells at you physically, support yourself by relaxing into your chair or putting your feet firmly on the floor. Remember to breathe. Think about the message they are trying to get across to you.

22. When you're harassing yourself, stop. You do it when you need something. Figure out what you want and get it.

23. When everything seems wrong, you are overwhelmed and need some comforting. Ask for it. Afterwards, you can think about what you need to do.

24. When you want to talk to someone new and you're scared, breathe. Don't start rehearsing, just plunge in. If it doesn't go well, you can stop.

25. If you're doing something you don't like to do (such as smoking or drinking), stop. Think about what you really want. If you're stuck and cant think clearly, talk out loud to someone.

26. When you can't think straight, stop thinking. Feel.

27. When you're in need of love, reach out. There are people who love you.

28. When you're confused, it's usually because you think you should do one thing and you want to do another. Dialogue with yourself out loud or on paper or present both sides with a friend.

29. When you feel hurried, slow down. Deliberately slow your breathing, your speech and your movements.

30. When you have tears, cry.

31. When you feel like crying and it's not a safe place to cry. Acknowledge your pain and promise yourself a good cry later. Keep your promise.

32. When somebody does you wrong, be actively angry with them.

33. When everything seems gray, look for colour.

34. When you feel like a baby, take care of the baby in you.

35. When somebody gives you a gift, say "thank you". That's all you need to do. A gift is not an obligation.

36. When somebody loves you, just accept and be glad. Love is not an obligation. You don't have to do anything in return unless you want to.

37. If one of these rules seem wrong for you, talk about it to someone. Then rewrite it so it fits you. wehehehe!!!

------From the unknown author of an old book..

I LOVE this story.

Somewhere in Milaor, Camarines Sur, there lived a fourth grader boy who
would follow this route to school everyday: He has to cross the rugged
plains and cross the dangerous highway where vehicles are recklessly
driving to and from.

Once past this highway, the boy would take a short cut, passing by the
Church every morning just to say Hi to God, and faithfully say
his, 'Magandang umaga po' in Bicol dialect. He was faithfully being
watched by a Priest who was happy to find innocence so uplifting in the
morning,

'Kamusta, Andoy? Papasok ka na?'

'Opo padre ... 'he would flash his innocent grin, the priest would be
touched. He was so concerned that one day he talked to Andoy.

'From school...', he advised 'Do not cross the highway, you can
pass through the Church and I can accompany you to the other side of the
road...that way I can see that you are home safe....'

'Thank you father ... '
'Why don't you go home ... why do you stay in
this church right after school?'

'I just want to say 'Hi' to my friend, God,' and the priest
would leave the boy to spend time beside the altar,
talking to himself, but the priest was hiding behind the altar to listen
to what this boy has to say to his heavenly FATHER.

'You know my math exam was pretty bad today, but I did not cheat although
my seatmate is bullying me for notes... I ate one cracker and drank my
water, Itay had a bad season and all I can eat is this cracker.

Thank you for this! I saw a poor kitten who was hungry and I know how he
feels so I gave my last cracker to him ... funny but I am not that hungry.
Look, this is my last pair of slippers ...I may have to walk barefoot next
week, you see this is about to be broken... but it is okay....at least I am
still going to school.... Some say we will have a hard season this month,
some of my classmates have already stopped going to school .... please help
them get to school again, please God?

...Oh, you know, Inay hit me again, it is painful, but I know this pain
will pass away, at least I still have a mother.... God, you want to see my
bruises? I know you can heal them.... Here... here and .... oh ...blood
...I guess you knew about this one huh? Please don't be mad at Inay, she
is
just tired and she worries for the food in our table and my schooling that
is why she hits us....Oh, I think I am in love ... there's this pretty girl
in my class, her
name is Anita ... do you think she will like me? Anyway, at least I know
you will always like me, I don't have to be anybody just to please you, you
are
my very best friend! Hey your birthday is two days from now!!! Aren't you
excited? I am! Wait till you see, I have a gift for you . but it is a
surprise! I hope you will like it! Oooops, I have to go ...' then he stood
up and calls out, 'Padre, padre, I am finished talking to my friend ....
youcan accompany me to the other side of the road now'

This routine happens everyday. Andoy never fails. Father Agaton shares this
every Sunday to the people in his church because he has not seen a very
pure faith and trust in God, a very positive look at negative situations.

One Christmas day, Father Agaton was sick so he could not make it in the
Church, he was sent to the hospital. The Church was left to 4 manangs who
would chant the rosary in 1000 miles per hour, would not smile and would
always find fault in what you do, they were also very well versed in
cursing
if you irritate them! They were kneeling, saying their kilometric rosary
when Andoy, coming from his Christmas party,playfully dashed in.

'Hello God! I ......'

'P----!! (a curse) bata ka!! Alam mo nang may nagdadasal!! Alis!!'

Poor Andoy was so terrified, 'Where's Father Agaton? He is supposed to
help me cross the street ... and to be able to cross the street I will
have
to pass by the back door of this church .not only that, I have to greet
Jesus. It is His birthday, I have a gift right here....
' Just as he was about to get the gift out of his shirt, the manang pulled
his shirt and threw him out of the church. 'Susmaryosep!!! (does the sign
of the cross fervently) Alis kang bata ka, kung hindi matatamaan ka!!!

So the boy had no choice but to cross the dangerous side of the road in
front of the church. He crossed. A fast moving bus came in.

There was a blind curve. The boy was protecting his gift inside his
shirt,
so he was not looking. There was so little time. Andoy died on the spot. A
lot of people crowded the poor boy, the body of a lifeless young boy ...

Suddenly, out of nowhere a tall man in a pure white shirt and pants, a
face so mild and gentle, but with eyes full of tears... He came and carried
the boy in His arms. He was crying. Curious bystanders nudged the man in
white, and asked,

'Excuse me sir, are you related to this child?

Do you know this child?'

The man in white, His face mourning and in agony, looked up and
answered,

'He was my best friend . ' was all he said. He took the badly
wrapped gift in the bloody chest of the lifeless boy, and placed it near
His heart.

He stood up and carried the boy away and they both disappeared in sight.

The crowd was curious ...

On Christmas Eve, Father Agaton learned of the shocking news. He visited
the house, and wanted to verify about the man in white. He consulted the
parents of Andoy.

'How did you know that your son died?'

'A man in white brought him here.' sobbed the mother. 'What did
he say?'
The father answered, 'He did not say anything. He was mourning. We do not
know him and yet he was very lonely about our son's death, as if he knew
our
son very well. But there was something peaceful and unexplainable about
him.
He
gave me my son, and then he smiled peacefully. He brushed my son's hair
away from his face and kissed him on his forehead, then he whispered
something...'

'What did he say?'

'He said to my boy...' the father began, 'Thank you for the gift
... I will see you soon ... you will be with me...' and the father
of the boy continued, 'and you know for a while, it felt so

wonderful ... I cried, but I do not know why....all I know is I
cried tears of joy .... I could not explain it, Father, but when
that man left, something peaceful came over me, I felt a deep sense

of love inside .... I could not explain the joy in my heart, I knew
my boy is in heaven now but...tell me, Father, who is this man that my son
talks to everyday in your church, you should know because you are always
there ... except at the time of his death ......'Father Agaton suddenly
felt the tears welling in his eyes, with

trembling knees, he murmurred, ' ... He was talking to no one .....
but .. GOD....'